Overview

As noted in the APA Monitor on Psychology, “sizeism is one of the most deeply entrenched stigmas in today’s society, partly because of sociocultural ideals tying thinness to core American values such as hard work and individualism.”
 
Studies show that stereotypical beliefs about the work-related abilities and qualities of obese/overweight individuals include: belief in lower job performance, poorer work habits, lower leadership potential, fewer interpersonal skills, lack of self-discipline, and lower intelligence.​ These negative perceptions have been tied to differences in hiring, income, and other job-related outcomes for people of above average body size; “individuals with a BMI above 35 were 84% more likely to report job-related discrimination as persons of an average weight.”
 
For these reasons, the use of language that is inclusive and doesn’t reinforce body size stigma is especially important. 

What to Say and What Not to Say

Say ThisNot ThisHere's Why
“I feel uncomfortable in my skin" “I feel fat" Do not use “fat" to describe a negative feeling or disparage others. Avoid grouping with other negative adjectives. 
“They are a great athlete" 
“They are fat but a great athlete" There is no need to mention body size within the context of athleticism. 
Remember that someone's weight does not signify better or worse health Obesity = unhealthy Higher-weight people are not problems that need to be eradicated. 
Consider: How can we end anti-fat discrimination Avoid problematic frames of weight, i.e.: obesity epidemic/the war on obesity These frames contribute to fat stigma and anti-fat attitudes, shame about body size, and fear of fatness.

“It's so good to see you" 

Or 

Not making a comment on what someone does or does not eat 

Don't comment on someone's appearance if they've gained/lost weight i.e., 
“Did you lose weight? You look great!" 
“Good for you! What self-control you have" - if someone declines dessert 
Don't recommend a diet/exercise routine for a higher-weight individual that would be considered an eating disorder in a thinner person. Fatness does not equal unhealthy. 
Little person or ask personal preference Dwarf; Midget; Vertically Challenged Ableist, only refer to someone's short stature if it is relevant. Use the term “dwarf" only when referring to a medical diagnosis.